PROSTATE MASSAGE
In our cultural circle, the anal region as part of sexuality has long been considered taboo, associated with being gay or considered as advanced sexual practices. However, reports about the male G-spot and the stimulation of the prostate as a form of intimate fitness against prostate issues have reduced reservations in many men, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Why even massage the prostate?
The prostate is a small, walnut-shaped gland located just under the bladder that produces a fluid that transports sperm during ejaculation.
Often referred to as the male G-spot, the prostate is super-sensitive to touch, especially to pressure. By stimulating the prostate, you can experience a long-lasting orgasm.
“It is difficult to describe. But the feeling is more intense than during a usual orgasm. The stimulation builds up slowly and lasts longer, and becomes more intense.
How do I find the prostate?
The best way to locate the prostate is to start digitally, using your finger. With some lubricant, insert your finger into the anus. Move your finger toward the stomach and you should be able to feel a walnut-like gland. Don't be worried if you don't find it immediately. Every man is a little different, and it may take some practice.
Giving yourself a prostate massage can be an acrobatic challenge. There are numerous prostate toys available to enhance the solo experience. However, the intensity and the experience with a partner cannot be compared.
Preparation for a prostate massage
The fingernails should be trimmed. The tissue of the anus is sensitive and easily susceptible to injury. Your fingers themselves should not have any scratches or cuts. Even with proper preparation, every sexual activity involves a transfer of bacteria, and this is even more likely during anal play.
I use a latex glove (a condom around the finger will also suffice). It will be more comfortable for you and your partner if the anal area is clean. An enema is not always necessary, but it is the best preparation.
Process of a prostate massage
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Chill out. Have confidence. The first time, your sphincter will need to get used to a foreign object entering and the change in "direction." It may tense up or cramp, even if it's just a finger – it should be manageable.
It is just messing with your head. Take your time. Your partner shouldn't jump right into it. You should try out a comfortable position for yourself. It should be relaxed and maybe not too acrobatic. After all, it's not about yoga but having fun.
I always start with a gentle massage to relax and get in the mood. Taking on the passive role can be very unfamiliar for some men and requires time and trust.
2.
The more lube the better. I use almond oil or silicone oil. The latter does not get absorbed into the skin and remains slippery for a long time. Use your finger to gently massage the anus until the sphincter relaxes.
3.
Move the middle finger slowly and gently towards the abdominal wall and apply circular movements, exerting pressure on the nearby rectal wall and the walnut-sized gland. If it becomes too intense, reduce the pressure.
As an active partner, don’t forget that you have two hands. You can also simultaneously massage the penis and balls while doing the prostate massage. This distracts from the unfamiliar "finger sensation" and simply makes it more enjoyable.
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The first signs that your partner is doing it right are slight contractions of your pelvic muscles and sphincter – usually involuntary. You will also notice a slight feeling of fullness and warmth in the rectum and surrounding pelvic area. The tension and warmth will naturally increase on their own. It may feel strange and unfamiliar, but stick with it.
At this stage, it is important to continue and not stop,.even if you feel like you need to urinate. The bladder will not empty involuntarily. It's just an unfamiliar sensation. Any change in pressure or pace may cause you to lose the moment. Just let it happen.
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The feeling of fullness and warmth around your rectum will intensify and be very unfamiliar the first time. There's no need to wait for the climax; it will happen naturally. Perhaps not the first time, but with some practice, it's possible to experience an anal orgasm without touching the genitals.
Two more tips …
A prostate massage cannot be achieved under pressure and great effort, but primarily through letting go. The first time, you might not find the process and sensations as pleasant as expected. Most men need time to get used to this new experience. By the second time, you will be much more relaxed and won't want to miss it anymore.
Give your partner feedback during the massage.Let him know what feels good, what you'd like more of, or if there's something they should do differently. Men often find it challenging to express their desires and end up disappointed when the experience doesn't meet their needs.